Getting some alone time while at college is a real thing.
Living in a dorm is one of the most fun aspects of the college experience. However, it is not without its struggles. Although hanging out with roommates and others on your floor is a great way to meet new people, it is natural to want some alone time.
I've watched people live in doubles and tripes during their freshmen and sophomore years. I lived in a double my freshmen year. My husband lived in a triple his sophomore year, complete with a communal living space. I remember how difficult it was for him and me to find a moment alone. For this reason, my mental and emotional battery was constantly on low as I tend to like time to myself. Personal time is essential to maintaining mental and emotional stability.
Here are my tips for finding some alone time and recharging your battery while living in a dorm.
Take a walk.
It may sound simple but going on walks significantly improves your mental health while living in a crowded dorm. The key to a refreshing, relaxing walk is as easy as bringing some headphones and your cell phone. Depending on your mood, throw on some music, call a friend/family member, or just take in some peace and quiet.
In the fall, the walking trails on campus are a great spot to leaf peep or catch a soccer game. In the spring, admire the blooming flowers and beautiful houses in adjacent neighborhoods. The winter is tricky because walking in a blizzard isn’t ideal, but bundle up with a warm jacket and some gloves. Then, treat yourself to a hot chocolate or coffee afterwards. Walking is a fantastic way to find some alone time and destress for 15 minutes or an hour, whatever works best for you.
Find a study space.
Study spaces on campus are not just for studying. You may feel obligated as soon as you step foot in a library or dorm common space to start doing homework. That's only natural. But, here’s the thing. You can sit in one of the cozy chairs and read a book or watch a show with no one approaching you because they are all busy doing work. You'll get a little peace and quiet.
I used to find a study room in the library when I needed quiet time with no one to bother me. It was there that I could find an accessible spot to sit by myself and do absolutely nothing. It was perfect. If you want even more space, venture off campus to the Public Library or one of the many coffee shops around town. The smell of coffee and a little corner in the back make for a prime spot for getting work done or clearing your head. Maybe even get a sandwich or a sweet treat!
Find time alone while your roommate is in class.
Lastly, it takes time, but get acclimated to your roommate’s schedule and figure out the times where your shared space can be only yours, even if it’s just for an hour. The key here is to try to use this time for something you enjoy. That means no homework. For example, binge watch or watch comfort shows with no headphones. Or scroll through social media. Personally, a short workout video followed by a shower is a great type of quality alone time. Don't forget to lock your door to avoid people on your floor barging in and ruining your zen mood.
Many people find that being cooped up in a dorm and surrounded by people is exhausting, so treat yourself to a little bit of alone time each day. It will help you avoid that mid-semester mental exhaustion. Living in the dorms is a great experience, but it’s okay to take a step back and relax every now and then. It's great for your mental health.
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